Saying goodbye is always hard but sometimes it is necessary to create space for something new.

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My first thought when I think about saying goodbye is the people that have departed my life for many reasons over the years. My second thought is for the aspects of myself I’ve had to say goodbye to, namely the images I’ve created, identities I’ve formed, and then peeled off as they grew too tight and began to suffocate.

Now, I’m no Mr. Ripley so this isn’t a tale of manipulation and mystery but then again perhaps it is.

We can only be known…


Find the simple life wherever you are.

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I can read all the self-help, empowerment, and spiritual books in the world and essentially, they all say the same thing. The same is true for the religions of the world… life is actually pretty basic at its heart, it’s just that we like to make things difficult for ourselves.

We know that all we need to do is treat each other well, and really not even well, just with respect, compassion, and empathy.

We like to make that difficult by imagining that other people are so different from us. We create lines in the sand, we separate into groups…


Can white writers create characters of color?

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In response to my article ‘What Does Positive Representation in Fiction Really Look Like?’, a reader posed the question, is it okay for white writers to have a main character of another race?

As questions of representation and appropriation rise and fall in our cultural dialogue, it is of no wonder that we as writers are asking these questions and disagreeing on the answers.

To create a central character, we climb inside their minds and live and breathe them into existence. Can we do that if the characters have a fundamentally different experience and life than our own? …


There’s a society-wide abusive relationship. Let’s end it.

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I’ve been stuck in a loop, thinking about the changes that haven’t quite happened. The movements that rise and fall, again and again, gathering momentum as the public voice swells, only to fizzle out like a birthday balloon with a tiny hole.

It mirrors an abusive relationship but it’s almost more disturbing. It’s an abusive lifestyle that we’re all a part of.

Whether I look through the eyes of a person of color, or as a woman in this culture, the view is the same. We’ve gotten so used to all the small infractions, all of the small microaggressions and…


2nd — 8th August

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Whether the ideas have slowed to a trickle or you’re just feeling curious and in the mood for a little reflection. Our weekly prompt is an invitation to ruminate on an idea and see what arises.

Be it poetry or prose you’d like to submit to us, or a journal entry for your eyes only, take a moment to pause at some point during your week and set your pen free.

Something you’ve meaning to say.

We all have things that for whatever reason we’ve wanted to say but held back. Maybe it feels like it’s too late, but I believe that can never be true because what we say and share with the world is as much for the person listening as it is for ourselves. Saying sorry, voicing our anger, expressing gratitude, all of these things release us and empower us as much the person we are offering our words to. Do you agree?

Do you have a letter you’d like to write and put out into the world?

Do you have something to say to a younger version of yourself or something you’d like to remind yourself of in the future?

Do you think we share too much and maybe shouldn’t voice it all quite so publically?

Did someone ever write you a letter that changed your perspective on them or an experience?

A few things to remember…

You can respond to any prompt at any time, so if you feel in need of a nudge but this week’s isn’t right for…


The truth of belonging.

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Sat at the table, so many of us present that our arms pressed tightly to our bodies so we can maneuver enough to still eat. The bustle of the room is a noise all of its own, the chatter from the table just the loudest piece. With laughter and conversation all around me, I am a welcome member of the group, yet my smile is strained as I try to join in. I know these are my friends, but here on the edges I still feel separate.

This is a sensation I remember from my teenage years at school and…


July 26th — 1st August

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Whether the ideas have slowed to a trickle or you’re just feeling curious and in the mood for a little reflection. Our weekly prompt is an invitation to ruminate on an idea and see what arises.

Be it poetry or prose you’d like to submit to us, or a journal entry for your eyes only, take a moment to pause at some point during your week and set your pen free.

Insider/Outsider

A sense of belonging is one of the biggest motivators we humans have, it affects our behavior, our beliefs about ourselves, and our general happiness and experience of daily life.

What does being an insider or outsider mean to you?

Which do you identify with and has that changed over your life?

Are you an insider in some situations and an outsider in others? Which?

How has your need to belong shaped you?

A few things to remember…

You can respond to any prompt at any time, so if you feel in need of a nudge but…


July 19th — 25th

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Whether the ideas have slowed to a trickle or you’re just feeling curious and in the mood for a little reflection. Our weekly prompt is an invitation to ruminate on an idea and see what arises.

Be it poetry or prose you’d like to submit to us, or a journal entry for your eyes only, take a moment to pause at some point during your week and set your pen free.

Saying goodbye

It’s never easy but something we have all had to do, time and time again, whether to a person, place, or thing. Saying goodbye is an experience we have all shared.

How do you feel about saying goodbye?

Is there a goodbye in your past that stands out in your memory?

Is there someone you wish you had said goodbye to, or a goodbye you wish you could take back?

What have your goodbyes taught you?

A few things to remember…

You can respond to any prompt at any time, so if you feel in need of a nudge but this…


Changing your perception can transform work into play.

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Work in my house doesn’t seem to mean the same as for everyone else. I’m not sure where it started but I think both my partner and I have always had a different take on it. Work is the thing you do because you are driven to. It keeps you up at night and screaming in your head in frustration when regular life pulls you away from it. Your job is what you do for money, it’s nothing more than a means to an end. If you’re really lucky, you combine the two. …


Let's regain the connection to the elements and reclaim the effect that the seas have on our bodies as well as our spirits.

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In the book ‘Present Over Perfect’, Shauna Niequist reminds us of the term ‘sea-change’.

The phrase comes from Shakespeare’s The Tempest, she tells us and speaks to ‘a man being thrown into the sea, and under the water, he is transformed from what he was into something entirely new, something ‘rich and strange’.

It is the same transformative moment experienced during the rite of baptism in Christianity and whispered to us down over the ages in myth and folklore, of beings that are transformed by the wild waters of the seas and oceans.

But do all these things speak of…

ADEOLA SHEEHY-ADEKALE

Writing on the female experience, race, motherhood & self-development. Columnist at The Green Parent magazine. Follow me on IG @adeola_moonsong.

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